Knowing Who You Are and What You Need by Meggin McIntosh, PhD

In Coaches
Apr 9th, 2014
You are who you are (or at least I hope you’ve been introspective enough to at least have a pretty good idea of who you are).  By this time in your life, I would hope you’ve learned that “changing” an adult is a difficult task, and I would argue that in many (most) cases it is not necessary, important, or wise to try to change someone else.
We can create a fair amount of mayhem around us by trying to change others. And boy, oh boy, do we create a great deal of inner mayhem by trying to be something that we are not.

So right now, evaluate who you are, and….

  1. If you love work, then work.
  2. If you need to check your email frequently, then do.
  3. If you need your house/car/office to be clean, then clean it.
  4. If you need to feel like you look younger, then color your hair.
  5. If you need to drive a sports car, then ditch the minivan.
  6. If you need a new image, get a professional photograph.
  7. If you like beautiful clothes, purchase one perfect outfit.
  8. If you love to exercise, go for it!
  9. If you love to read, then read.
  10. If you need permission to do (just about) anything – consider it granted!

The ones listed above are just examples and I hope you modify these for yourself.  I do have several magic wands that I use in some of my workshops–so imagine I’m waving one over your head right now.  Eschew your own personal mayhem by accepting who you are and working through your strengths (instead of forever trying to fix your weaknesses).

The two best books on this subject are:

  1. GO Put Your Strengths to Work: 6 Powerful Steps to Achieve Outstanding Performance by Marcus Buckingham
  2. StrengthsFinder 2.0: A New and Upgraded Edition of the Online Test from Gallup’s Now, Discover Your Strengths by Tom Rath.

Order and read one or both of these books, if you haven’t already done so and see what an awakening (and affirmation) you have.

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